ADHD Therapy for Adults
For the person who was always trying harder than anyone realized
If you received your ADHD diagnosis as an adult - or have been suspecting ADHD - you know the particular mix of relief and grief that comes with having a lens that finally makes sense of your experience - the impulsiveness, hyperfocus, or enthusiasm that you thought were personality quirks, the inconsistency of being able to do amazing work one day and struggling to do the smallest task the next day.
Late-diagnosed ADHD often looks like years of overcompensating, white-knuckling, and building coping strategies that kept you functioning but exhausted. Late diagnosis (or suspicion) usually comes when life's demands become too much for the elaborate strategies we've created - that might be from a big move, a career transition, or becoming a parent.
You may be experiencing:
Emotional dysregulation — snapping when you didn't mean to, feeling
overwhelmed by frustration or sadness, rejection sensitivity, or guilt
spirals that pull you away from the present momentChronic burnout from years of masking and overperforming
Difficulty trusting your own capacity and judgement
Anxiety or depression that developed on top of unrecognised ADHD
A persistent sense of underachievement despite high intelligence
Our work together:
Therapy for ADHD can be really helpful to understand how your unique brain and body work. We process the emotional weight of years of misunderstanding and identify the coping strategies and protective mechanisms that developed along the way. We work together to align your strengths, values, and goals. We build capacity and skills for connection with self and others so you get to show up as the friend, professional, partner, or parent you want to be. EMDR can be helpful for rejection sensitivity or traumatic experiences.
Autism Therapy for Adults
For late-identified Autistic adults ready to understand themselves - finally
Being neurodivergent in a neurotypical world can be deeply tiring. You may have spent years masking, adapting, or questioning yourself just to get by.
You always knew you were different. You just didn't have the word for it yet. For many late-identified Autistic adults — particularly women and people of color — the diagnosis arrives after decades of being told they were too sensitive, too intense, too rigid, or simply not trying hard enough. The diagnostic criteria were built around white, male children. It's no wonder so many people were missed. A late autism diagnosis brings its own specific reckoning: relief at finally having an explanation, grief for the years spent without one, and the complex work of figuring out who you actually are underneath years of performance.
You may be experiencing:
Autistic burnout — profound depletion from sustained
masking and sensory overloadChronic exhaustion from social performance and the effort
of appearing neurotypicalSensory sensitivities that make everyday environments
genuinely overwhelmingDifficulty knowing where the mask ends and the real
you beginsGrief and relief following a late diagnosis
Relationships that feel confusing, exhausting, or
consistently one-sided
Our work together:
Therapy in my practice is genuinely neurodiversity-affirming — which means I don't aim to make you more neurotypical. I aim to help you understand yourself, have more agency over when and how you mask or not, and build a life that actually fits your nervous system. We make space for the grief of late diagnosis, address autistic burnout, and use EMDR where years of being misunderstood or othered have left marks. You don't have to perform, this space will welcome you exactly as you are on any given day.
AuDHD Therapy
Two neurotypes, one very tired person.
AuDHD — the co-occurrence of autism and ADHD — creates a profile that is more than the sum of its parts. Research suggests that 30-80% of autistic people also have ADHD, and yet AuDHD remains significantly underdiagnosed and underserved. If you are AuDHD, you may feel like you are constantly pulled in two directions: the part of you that craves novelty and stimulation, and the part that needs routine and predictability. Both are real. Both are you. And the internal conflict between them is genuinely exhausting.
You may be navigating:
Feeling like you don't quite fit the description of either autism
or ADHD aloneExecutive dysfunction more severe than either condition
individuallyIntense interests that shift with ADHD novelty-seeking but
feel essential to autistic identityA long diagnostic journey — often receiving one diagnosis
decades before the otherSocial exhaustion from masking autistic traits while managing
ADHD impulsivityChronic burnout from navigating two sets of neurological
demands simultaneously
Our work together
I work with AuDHD adults by holding both profiles simultaneously — understanding how they interact in your specific life, not applying a one-size-fits-all approach. We work on emotional regulation, the grief of late or complex diagnosis, executive functioning strategies as they align with your goals and needs, relationship dynamics, and any trauma that developed from years of being misunderstood. You are not "a little autistic and a little ADHD." You are AuDHD — a distinct experience that deserves specific, informed support.
Teen Therapy
For teenagers who think differently - and the parents who want to support them
Adolescence is complicated for anyone. For teens who don't fit the mold it can feel even harder. I work with teens who are struggling due to complex medical histories, family conflict, experiences of trauma, or neurodivergence. I work with teenagers aged 12–17 in a collaborative, non-judgmental space where they can explore who they are, understand how their brain works, and develop real tools for navigating a world that doesn't always feel easy.
You may be noticing:
Your teen is struggling academically despite clear intelligence
and effortSocial situations feel confusing, exhausting, or consistently
painful for themThey perform well at school and fall apart at home
Anxiety, shutdowns, or emotional outbursts that feel
disproportionate to the context you can seeA recent ADHD or autism diagnosis and not knowing how to
support themDistance in your relationship that you're not sure how to bridge
Our work together
I take a strengths-based approach with every teen I work with. My goal is to help them understand themselves, feel less alone, and build genuine confidence — which is what actually leads to long-term wellbeing. I also work with parents to help you understand their experience and strengthen your relationship with them.
Therapy is not about fixing what’s broken—it’s about creating the conditions for safety, understanding, and growth. I offer a supportive, collaborative space for adults and adolescents in San Leandro and across California via telehealth.
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